Finding out that you’re HIV positive can be one of the most shocking moments of your life. Not only is your world shaken to the core, but you also have to find a way to tell your friends and family. None of this is made any easier by all the stigma that follows being pos, but living with HIV is nowadays completely different from 10 or 15 years ago. There is treatment available to keep the viral load to a minimum, which helps achieve near-normal life expectancy.
Living life to the fullest is now not only possible, but probable, and that includes dating as well. HIV dating is a whole new world that opened up to the HIV community several years ago, and this niche is only getting more popular as time goes on and as more people are becoming comfortable with it. Today, we’ll explore the world of dating when you’re positive in more detail to bring this niche closer to you and to the general public, thus breaking down the barriers and fighting discrimination.
#1: Niche-Specific Dating
When it comes to niche-specific dating, you’ll be surprised to see that there are lots of sites that cater to a certain community, in this case the pos community. There are various HIV positive dating sites where you could meet a potential partner, and all you need to do is explore them and find the ones that suit you best. When you sign up for a site like this, disclosing your status won’t be an issue, although it is advisable to always talk about it. On the other hand, the pool of potential candidates is much smaller, which means there is more fish in the sea if you sign up for a mainstream dating site or app. However, in this case, your status is the first thing you need to talk about, which might come as a shock to a lot of people.
#2: Safe Sex
Your chances of transmitting the virus to your partner are brought down to a minimum if you are on medication and if you practice safe sex. Safe sex is super important not only to protect your partner, but also to protect you against a different strain of HIV. It’s crucial to openly talk about this with your doctor and your partner so that everyone is comfortable and aware of the risks and the situation. By following the procedure laid down by a medical professional, you and your other half will have nothing to worry about. When on medication and with a non-detectable viral load, it’s possible to bear children who are HIV-free.
Any kind of dating is stressful, but HIV positive dating is a whole different ball game. Rejection is hard and a part of life, and telling you not to take it personally is just not going to cut it. What you need to do is build up your self-confidence to a level where you’ll understand that you’re not your status, that you’re much more just like everyone else. In order to do this, there are two things you need to do. First, you need to do the things you really enjoy and are good at on a regular basis. That is one of the best ways to ensure your self-esteem and self-confidence are at a high level. Second, you need to talk about what dating someone with HIV is like with the people in your inner circle. They’ll support you and offer kind words of advice, while you’ll get more comfortable talking about your status, which will make it easier to talk about it with your dates.
#4: Date As Much As Possible
At the end of the day, you’ll have to go out into the real world and start meeting new people. Whether you do it on the internet or offline, you’ll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince or princess, just like everybody else. But do keep going because you’ll fail only if you give up. Nobody succeeds on their first try, so be persistent and patient, and you’re bound to find the kind of person you’re looking for who will love you for who you are.