Starting relationship with a widowed man can be daunting and exciting at the same time. In the beginning, you might feel like you’ve clicked and that everything is land of milk and honey, regardless of the fact that a man you are dating has lost a spouse. The mixed feelings will eventually emerge, however, and these are practically inevitable when dating a widower. Still, this doesn’t mean that you should miss the chance for happiness but rather to watch for some red flags and don’t let your current infatuation lead you to some awkward or disappointing situations. After all, prevention is better than cure, right?
He is not Ready to tell his Friends and Family about you
Okay, this is reasonable if you just started dating or if his spouse has recently deceased. Still, if the situation prolongs, and yet he keeps making the excuses for not meeting you with other important people in his life, it is high time to ask yourself whether the two of you have the future together. You have to be entirely aware that widowers have a hole in their hearts and are subconsciously looking for someone to fill in that void. This means that they can unintentionally act based on their habits and selfishness (which are, in this case, fully justified). Still, should you feel it in your gut that situation develops this way, don’t hesitate to bail out as soon as possible. Keep in mind that same as he deserves to meet someone new and start his life all over again, you shouldn’t waste your time on being with a person that beats around the bush for no apparent reason either.
He might be with you even though He doesn’t love You
This doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Well, not necessarily. It all depends on what you are looking for at the moment. If you’re seeking a casual companionship and are ready to take an initiative or just to be a shoulder he can cry on, then it’s perfectly okay to stay with him. On the other hand, if you feel like you’ve invested too much of your precious time but are still not getting a desired amount of attention in return, don’t be afraid to cut the cord immediately.
There are Shrines dedicated to his Late Wife all around his Place
It is perfectly natural to keep some of the photos that bring back the good memories of life that he and his late wife had. Still, you should bear in mind that the science of psychology claims that man can actively love only one woman at the time. This means that if shrines keep persisting around his place, even though he wholeheartedly tells you he loves you to the moon and back, there is a high probability that he still hasn’t locked away his love for a dead spouse and made a real room for you in his heart.
The Relationship stagnates
Okay, we are pretty sure that you don’t want to get married right away and that you have a lot of understanding and sympathy for all the pain and grief he’s been through. Still, if you notice that he acts passively and perhaps says that he loves you but is still hesitant when it comes to taking the initiative, this means that something is terribly wrong. There are man who are literally addicted to having someone by their side at all cost, just for the sake of avoiding loneliness. Should you suspect this is the case, end the entire thing right away.
Widowers are still Men
Unfortunately, men are creatures of habit. Widowers dating again are usually doing so in order to satisfy their utter need for a relationship and closeness. Still, a man naturally has a need to pursue woman that he is interested in, even if he’s a widower. This only means that he’s ready to move on and give love another try. In this case, you will probably notice that photos of his late wife surely but slowly disappear from around his house, that he isn’t being passive and isn’t afraid to meet you with other people in his life.